2 of 3 Perfectionism

2 of 3 Perfectionism

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Speaker 3: If you have something you know you're meant to do and you don't do it, and you hesitate and you try to be perfect about it, the universe is gonna find somebody else to do it instead, and then you're gonna miss your opportunity. I can't count how many times that I've come across a product that I saw on TV or something I saw on the street saying I had the idea for that months ago, but somebody else did it and now it's too late.

Also being perfect is kind of selfish if you really think about it too, because we're worried so much about it being perfect and not putting it out there and not being good enough, somebody else. That could be waiting for to hear that specific message or have that specific product from you. Is waiting and waiting.

There's somebody out there that needs to hear what I have to say in my voice and the way that I say it, but if I wait for it to be [00:01:00] perfect, if I wait to put it out there, they're never gonna hear it. They're never gonna have that shift. They're never gonna have that change that they need to have in their life because you didn't speak up and you waited for it to be perfect.

Speaker: All right. Hi, SC Believers. It's me again, SC coming at you, whatever device you happen to be listening on. And welcome to number two of three of my solo episodes of going over the hurdles of Stop Imposter Center perfectionism, failure and Fear. And, uh, if you didn't get a chance to listen to one of three, look into the show notes while I have a link to one of three.

It's very important that you listen to that one first. That way you get an idea of what's going on with the positive syndrome. But right now we are actually going over number two, which is perfectionism. Perfectionism one of the main hurdles of STOP that I always talk about in my podcast and everything else.

So what really, I'm gonna get right down to it here, but what is really perfectionism? [00:02:00] Why does it bother us so much? A lot of it has to do with our our upbringing and how we were told we have to be perfect to be able to stand out to make a difference in the world, or we had to get straight A's or anything like that.

God knows that I was not a straight A student. No, but I'm still here doing this and I love it. But let's really dig deep into perfectionism what it actually looks like. So, a lot of perfectionism has to do with overthinking our situation and. Because we're thinking so much about our situation and trying to make it perfect, we end up delaying a lot of what we could actually get out there into the world.

. It's really hard to put anything out there if we're trying to be perfectionists and try to make it perfect, in and out, up and down, whatever we need to do to make it right for us as being a part of perfectionism. But it delays us.

It's kind of like, uh, we hear it all the time about an [00:03:00] paralysis. They say analysis paralysis. That's what that's called. And we're just analyzing everything over and over again. Making a little tweak here, make it tweak there, but at the same time, we are losing opportunities. And that's another part of it too, missing opportunities.

'cause we're sitting there trying to make everything perfect so much that we're not gonna put anything out there till it's perfect. But at the same time, we're missing opportunities that are coming along and we're, we're pushing opportunities to the side. It's not ready yet. I don't think this font is right or I don't think this picture is good enough for this particular part, or whatever it is that you're putting together.

We're missing opportunities 'cause of little things. Let's not miss opportunities that are really important in our entrepreneur adventure because it's not perfect. What we really need to do here is have the imperfect launchpad and why good enough is the only way to greatness. We really get stuck into the pre-launch world.

And we have to stay we [00:04:00] tend to wanna stay in a safe place where there's no judges, where people can't judge what we're doing until we get it in our mind. Perfect. And we really can't be doing that to ourselves. What we really need to do is get our stuff out there. We really need to put our stuff out there so we can get real world feedback from our stuff.

From our products or from whatever it is that we're putting out there, that's what's gonna make the difference for us. 'cause we may think it's perfect if we, and you know, after so much time putting it out there, it's our minds and we're guessing that we think it is what everybody wants. But more times than not, if we're guessing what people want.

We're not gonna get it right. What we need to do is put something out there that's 80% right. We have to be comfortable with 80% of what it is we put out there, and then put it out there and see what happens and get feedback from people saying, you know, this is great, but I think this would be [00:05:00] better for you.

Or, I don't think this is so great. Let's make a change and then take that into consideration and move along that way. Let's not miss opportunities and let's not drain resources. 'cause you know, you go back over and over and over again trying to fix it. We're draining one of our main resources as entrepreneurs or anybody for that matter.

And that's time. Time is our greatest resource we have, and we're trying to get it done over and over again, waiting for it to be perfect, keep tweaking it, treatment, and we're losing time. Let's not lose that time. Let's not drain resources. Some of us are draining money, resources for trying to be perfect.

That's one of the worst things you could do. Time and money, right? That's what everybody always talks about. Time is money, money, time, however it goes. But let's not drain that money. Let's not drain that time and drain those resources. For trying to be perfect for ourselves. And then when we finally put it out there, we're disappointed because nobody wants it because we were guessing what people wanted it to be.

So let's not do that. Uh, [00:06:00] something I like to talk about too when it comes to perfectionism is perfectionism is a mask we hide behind perfectionism.

Because we're not vulnerable and comfortable enough to put out what we need to put out, we don't think it's good enough. And it kind of does tie into a little bit of, of imposter syndrome too. We hide behind this mask of, of perfectionism.

And I remember in one of my main, one of my most favorite episodes of Undiscovered Entrepreneur was with John Lee Dumas and John Lee Dumas said on my podcast, you're not a perfectionist, you're a coward. You're scared to put it out there, so you keep putting it off, making this change, making that change instead of putting it out there and just seeing what people are gonna say.

We get so worried about what people are gonna say. We have to be vulnerable enough to put something out there that's not gonna be perfect. We almost don't want it to be perfect.

And here's another thing I hear a lot about too. It's not the right time. This is an excuse I hear [00:07:00] over and over and over again about perfectionism. It's never the right time. It's never the perfect time. It's never gonna be the perfect time. The perfect time is not on the calendar. There's never a circle where that X is gonna be because it's never the perfect time.

So instead of waiting for the perfect time that never shows up, just do it now. Do it today. Get across the start line like I'm always saying.

And while you're sitting there busy analyzing when the right time is, the market moves on and then now it's too late. I heard another one of my podcasts, I had a guest talk about if you don't make the effort to get across the start line, if you are given a. A calling, whatever you want to call it, whether it's spiritual, whatever.

If you have something you know you're meant to do and you don't do it, and you hesitate and you try to be perfect about it, the universe is gonna find somebody else to do it instead, and then you're gonna miss your opportunity. I can't count how many times that I've come across a product that [00:08:00] I saw on TV or something I saw on the street saying I had the idea for that months ago.

Somebody else did it and now it's too late. That's why it's so important not to wait for the perfect time. Also, being perfect is kind of selfish if you really think about it too, because we're worried so much about it being perfect and not putting it out there and not being good enough, somebody else.

Could be waiting for to hear that specific message or have that specific product from you. Is waiting and waiting. I come across this a lot in my podcasts too, and that's kind of what keeps me going is there's somebody out there that needs to hear what I have to say in my voice and the way I that I say it, but if I wait for it to be perfect, if I wait to put it out there, they're never gonna hear it.

They're never gonna have that shift. They're never gonna have that change that they need to have in their life because you didn't speak up. And you waited to for it to be perfect and then it was too late. That's why it's so important to [00:09:00] get out there Now. Don't be selfish in that silence.

Put it out there now.

It is very important to be okay with B minus work. I mean, there were so many people that I went to school with when I was in high school that if they got less than an A plus. They just broke down. I was not an A plus student, but I was okay with that ' cause I was still myself and I still was able to put work out there and be okay with it.

But 80% is good enough. Just get it out there. B minus work is OK. Don't get a hundred percent stuck in your head.

Because then we'll just go right into doing what we talked about, what we're doing before as just waiting. The waiting game is the worst game.

We always have to remember that a plan executed now a violent plan that ex executed now is better than a perfect plan executed by next week. If we put something out there right [00:10:00] now, we'll start getting feedback from it right now. The longer you take to put it out there, the longer it's gonna take for you to get the feed that actually makes it a product that people would want to have.

So don't wait. Get across the start line. Put it out there right now.

So how do we come, how do we actually overcome these things? How do, I mean we're feeling these things. We're feeling perfectionism. We're realizing that we're waiting. We are. You'll eventually, you will recognize it. You'll see it 'cause you keep going back to it over and over again.

Here's a couple tips for you that I found very helpful for me. First of all, put a time limit for yourself. I. If you're gonna put something out there, let me, it's like a short or something like that, or like just a graph or something really simple. Set a timer for five minutes and just do the thing. Do it in a way that you're focused on it, and then when the alarm goes off or whatever it is, see where you're at.[00:11:00]

And if you, if it's viable, if it's the smallest viable product that you could actually put out, then ship it. Send it to where you need to send it. Maybe if it's, you just want to get some ideas from family members or some trusted friends that wanna, that you could send it to.

So how does this look? That way you can get a feed, you could get feedback from it right away. Also, another way to do it is the three edit rule. I've talked about this once or twice too, where sometimes with the bigger pro projects that you need to do some of the bigger products that you're trying to put together, don't change it more than three times.

If you get to that third time where you're changing it after that, ship it, put it out there, see what happens.

When you are feeling perfectionism, when you know that this is happening, it's a compass. Believe it or not, it is a compass, just like imposter syndrome. When I talked about my last episode. It means you're going the right direction and you care about it, and you have, you are

so passionate [00:12:00] about the product that you're putting out there. You want to be perfect, and I understand it, wanting to be perfect. Let's not cross that threshold from progress to perfectionism. There's a fine line between the two. Progress is when you're actually putting it out there and making something of it and getting feedback from it.

Perfectionism is when you keep editing it and changing it over and over again. But if you know that you're feeling that progress, but you're kind of tipping over to the perfectionism where you're kind of editing it a few more times than you really think you should. If you're going the right way, but that means we need to put it out there now.

So use perfectionism as a guide and be undiscovered. No more. Make sure you, it's it. Launch your ugly babies this week. I mean, what do you think? Get across the start line now, and I have something to help you get across the start line. Just like with imposter syndrome, I have a questionnaire that I've put together just for you.

My SC Believers out there, go to t podcast.net/quiz and [00:13:00] this quiz, it's only three minutes long, three minutes out of your life to be able to pinpoint down which one of the hurdles is affecting you the most. If you could figure out which one of the hurdles is affecting you the most, then you know what to work on first.

That's one of the hardest things, I think, is to know what you should work on first. This will give you a guide. It'll also give you some tools. It'll give you some ways to go to figure out which one of the hurdles is affecting you the worst, and how to overcome them.

And, uh. And see how we can get you across the start line. So look in the show notes for a link to that hope. Hopefully somewhere along the lines here, there is a QR code somewhere on the screen here. I'm gonna put that together for you. So to just bring your pulp your camera, show you a camera to the QR code, and it'll go to the link to go to my three minute quest to find out which one of the hurdles is affecting you the most.

The getting in the cross, the [00:14:00] start line,

whether it be perfectionism, imposter syndrome, failure, or fear, these are all tools that you can use for yourself. Don't be afraid to use these as tools. Look at 'em in a different way. Look at 'em in a different angle than you're used to. I think you'll see something a little bit different, a little bit special that you haven't seen before if you just look at 'em a different way.

With that, I'm gonna say thank you scuba believers for another awesome episode. The next episode you'll have with me as three of three where we'll go over fear and failure, two of the main things that stick together in this whole thing. Alright everybody. Thank you.

Bye-bye.